- Families who have been managing on their own during long deployments face a major adjustment when members return home.
- Often, beneath the excitement and anticipation is stress about reintegrating the returning member into family life.
- FFSC's Homecoming program helps those at home "make a good thing better" by addressing concerns in a discussion format.
MAKE A GOOD THING BETTER
After many months of separation the feelings and emotions associated with homecoming are overwhelming. With so many positive feelings surrounding the anticipated reunion, what is there to learn that could possible make this event even better?
The experienced staff at Fleet and Family Support Centers has capitalized upon many homecoming experiences and offer a few observations and common questions that family members usually experience.
Anticipation of homecoming:
You may wonder whether your partner has changed over the long separation.
You now remember all those decisions you had to make on your own and whether they were the "right" ones — now with the benefit of hindsight.
Even though you really want him/her back, will you miss the freedom and independence that you enjoyed during the deployment?
Will the kids adjust easily to the other parent?
You've not done all the things you wanted to over these many months, will he/she want to "go and do" or just sit back and relax.
After the homecoming is over:
The military member doesn't seem to appreciate all the little things done while he/she was gone. Why not?
He/she may seem more distant sometimes and wants to be alone a lot. You may want more family time. What's that all about?
You may have made a lot of nice changes to the house. Why didn't your spouse notice them?
You thought he/she would want to spend more time with the kids.
Seems like the "homecoming high" ended so quickly, especially since you had such anticipation.
IA HOMECOMING BRIEF
"This program explains potential physical and emotional effects of hazardous duty on Sailors and their family members, and identifies resources that provide help for military families. Sailors, who are returning from an Individual Augmentee (IA) deployment or other hazardous duty, are encouraged to attend along with their family members and/or significant partners."